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The Beauty of Imperfection : An Important Life Lesson

Here’s the truth. The topics I write about are based on lessons that I’ve learned. But there are times that I share advice that even though I know theoretically,  I can’t seem to apply them to myself.

This past year, I’ve had the biggest transformation of my life (and no, I’m not exaggerating that). I’ve learned so much about myself, my values, my beliefs, my thought processes. And I also learned how much strength, knowledge and resilience I have to make the necessary changes in my life.

But I’m not perfect (shocking, I know). There are still things that I’m learning and things that I don’t even know yet and I still have changes I want to make and goals that I want to achieve.

And that’s why I love blogging. I love sharing what I’ve learned firsthand and know for a fact work because they worked on me. Blogging is also a way for me to learn more about myself, to reflect on growth, but most importantly, to share that knowledge with you and to grow alongside with you.

I love the community aspect of blogging. Being able to connect with you guys and reading your comments, your struggles and your learnings…this is what makes me happy and what keeps me going with my blog.

[bctt tweet=”The beauty of the blogging community is to make authentic connections” username=”seppyforlove”]

Because I’m sharing advice, my thoughts, my ideas and suggestions on positive changes that have worked for me, there are times where I feel like a fraud because I’m not perfect. I don’t have all my sh*t together. There are days where I’m not eating mindfully or that I forget to do my deep breaths or that I’m too lazy to stick to my evening routine. There are weeks where I have a nagging feeling of anxiety that I can’t shake off.

There are days where there’s a lot of self-doubt that creeps into my head, questioning whether I will be able to reach my health and fitness goals or whether I will be able to build the vision that I have for this blog.

But what I’m realizing as I go through the process of personal growth, as I learn new things about myself and how to become better at managing life and everything that comes with it, and as I read your amazing comments, I’m seeing that it’s okay…I’m okay.

I don’t have to be perfect. I can’t be perfect. don’t think anyone expects me to be perfect (at least I hope not…). It’s okay that I don’t have the answer to everything. That it’s okay even though I share something that I learned, that I won’t be able to apply it perfectly all the time because I’m human.

I’m learning that there’s beauty in imperfection.

I’m not perfect. You’re not perfect (sorry to burst your bubble). No one is perfect.

Our path towards personal development and learning about ourselves isn’t perfect.

Nothing is perfect.

And that’s what makes life so beautiful.

[bctt tweet=”Nothing is perfect. And that’s what makes life so beautiful” username=”seppyforlove”]

Just because I don’t know everything and I’m not always able to use the advice that I share doesn’t make me fraud.

Honesty, transparency, authenticity and living with intention are really important core values. And because I’m sometimes unable to apply my own advice, I feel like a fraud. I get scared that someone will notice that I haven’t reached my fitness goals that I set for myself, or that I didn’t meditate the night before, or that I had a second piece of chocolate cake even though I wasn’t supposed to…

I don’t want to be a fraud. I want to share with you what I’ve learned and what has worked for me in my path of personal development, the same way that I’ve been learning from you the advice and lessons that you’ve shared.

The biggest lesson that I learned so far this month is that there’s beauty in imperfection. If everything was perfect and we had no struggles, no challenges, what would be the point? We wouldn’t have moments where we can look back and see our progress and feel proud of ourselves. We wouldn’t be able to appreciate how far we’ve come, how much stronger we are, how much wiser we are, how much we’ve learned from our path.

Perfection is boring.

[bctt tweet=”Perfection is boring! Embrace your imperfections, they make you who you are!” username=”seppyforlove”]

There’s beauty in imperfection because those are the moments where we will learn the most, where we will grow the most, and where we will see the biggest difference in ourselves.

Strive for perfection with the realization that perfection is unattainable.

So… what am I trying to say?

That I’m not perfect and I don’t claim to know all the answers. I have some answers for questions and challenges that I’ve had, and I’m sharing those with you in the hopes that it will help someone out there.

But the truth is, I don’t have all the answers. And neither do you. We are all different and have our own life paths to follow. But if we share our learnings and struggles, then maybe together we can be stronger. As a community, we can find a wealth of resources and knowledge and experiences to share.

There is a infinite amount of things we can learn from each other. And that’s beauty of imperfection. Your imperfection has taught you a lesson in your life, and if you share that with us, then we can learn from each other and it might help someone else going through a similar experience.

{ Self-Love Lesson }

Love yourself and all your imperfections…because you are perfect as you are.

[bctt tweet=”Love yourself and all your imperfections..because you are perfect as you are” username=”seppyforlove”]

The beauty of imperfection

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  1. Anonymous says

    Perfection is totally boring! I used to hate my nose growing up but now it helps me look like my family 🙂

    • Sepideh says

      Awww that’s such a nice way of looking at it!!!!! I didn’t like my nose either but now I love because it’s the same as my Dad’s <3

  2. Viktoria says

    Love this post! To be honest, as a reader I’m much more interested in reading about someone’s journey – along with the struggles. No one is perfect, as you said and no one has all the right answers. I don’t really like bloggers who act like they know everything and we just have to blindly follow them. I try to give valuable advice as much as I can, but I also share my struggles, because if someone can relate to that, I think that’s value in itself.

    Also, yes, sometimes we do not follow our own advice (it’s always so much easier to solve other people’s problems☺). I frequently go back and reread my posts in order to stay on track. And I think it’s OK. I always say, the ‘you’ I often use in my writing refers to ‘me’ in a lot cases – if that makes sense. I have to make the same efforts (and need the same reminders) to lead an intentional life as any other reader of mine.
    Viktoria
    http://www.thelifestyle-files.com

    • Sepideh says

      This is such a great contribution Viktoria, thank you SO much! It validates how I feel about how I’m blogging and that makes me happy! I don’t want to pretend that I’m a know-it-all because I’m really not but I still feel like I have some good advice to give!

      I read through my old posts as well because they remind me of what I had learned!

      I LOVE what you said about the ‘you’ actually refers’ to ‘me’ (but .. in this case ‘you’ means ‘me’ and ‘me’ means ‘you’ hahahaha get it!?) but I totally agree and understand – we are talking to our readers but really, we are also talking to ourselves at the same time!

  3. Shannon says

    Such a beautiful and well written post! I think, especially within the blogging world, it is so hard to not overthink the idea of perfection. I’ve also discovered quite a bit about myself this year and it’s so refreshing to acknowledge that I’m not perfect, nor do I need to be!

    Shannon
    Clothes & Quotes

    • Sepideh says

      Thank you Shannon, I’m glad you enjoyed it. And I’m happy to hear that you have learned more about yourself this year, it’s an empowering feeling isn’t it??

  4. Ayanna @ 21FlavorsofSplendor says

    There is definitely beauty in our imperfections. I have also learned a lot about myself through blogging and look forward to continuing to grow.

  5. Kaitlyn Napier says

    “Love yourself and all your imperfections, because you are perfect as you are.”💗 love love love this post. So much truth!

  7. Deena | Divine Art of Homemaking says

    I’ve learned I’m consistently inconsistent. My cheeks, which I used to consider chubby, are youthful, feminine, and pleasant rather than severe, bony, or haggard. Learning to love one’s imperfections, whether real or perceived, is part of the beauty of life, for sure.

    • Sepideh says

      I love how you’re describing something that you used to have a negative perspective about in such a positive light. I’m working on that too! Instead of “I’m fat”, I’ll try to say “I have fat on my stomach and I’m working on getting rid of it!”

  10. serena says

    I love love this blogpost, Seppy! I’m one of those people who struggle with perfection. I was taught at a young age how to behave and always be on my best behaviour. It took years to realize that no matter what I’ll do I will always find a way to disappoint someone or to do something bad. I was sure that perfection was something I could and should achieve… In the end, I learnt that I don’t mind having a messy life. I don’t mind not being perfect as long as I get to be who I am. x

    http://www.serenbird.com

    • Sepideh says

      Thank you so much Serena!!!

      That’s so empowering – to learn to be happy as long as you can be YOU! Good for you for that amazing life lesson… <3 Thank you for sharing!

  11. Johanne says

    Couldn’t agree more! I have come to realize the same thing recently and it really helped improve my self esteem. Also, perfect is totally boring. We all have our own different quirks and cutesies (I don’t know how else to say it and I don’t think this is a word?) and that’s awesome! I love reading about people’s journeys, people’s failed attempts, it’s the things that makes us human. That’s why sometimes I have a lot of trouble reading blogs about people doing one thing and immediately succeeding. I don’t know, I like to read how you shouldn’t do it first…

    • Sepideh says

      I think there’s a lot to be learned from the ‘failures’ or the path that someone took to get to where they are because that’s where they learned it all!

      P.S. Cutesies is TOTALLY a word 😉

  13. Peggy Medberry says

    Really lovely article… My blog is called Aging to Perfection… and really is all about embracing our imperfections as we grow closer to God. Such an important topic, really. Learning to embrace who we really are is when true happiness shows up! Blessings to you!

  14. Becky says

    This is such a good reminder. Sometimes I feel like I put so much pressure on myself to do everything right all the time, and i need to remember that it’s okay to be imperfect.

  15. Chelsea says

    This post is such a great reminder, and one that I needed! I am so hard on myself. I need to learn how to embrace my imperfections more and just be happy with who I am. Thank you for the inspirational post!

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